How long from start to finish did it take your toddler to potty train?

My girl started at 17 months…she is 25 months now. Ive tried her in underpants..she pees in them. In bare-bottom, she pees on the floor if Im not too observant. She is great with peeing and pooping in the potty..sometimes when I suggest it..and other times when she suggests it. Nothing is consistant though. Is there something else I can do? She still pees in her diaper/pullups in between potty-use.

I just feel like she should be fully ready by now! Its been almost a year on the toilet!

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Potty Training- The #1 Reason Why It May Take Longer

Sometimes our greatest helper is our greatest hindrance. In the case of potty training I am referring to a product that was introduced to the market 11 years ago: Pull-Ups training pants. In 1989 the product was well received by parents and was the first product of its kind. Today, many parents continue to use Pull-Ups as well as many other brands of disposable training pants as a logical step in the potty training process.

Though pull-ups are widely used, I believe they are actually the number one hindrance to the transition from diapers to the potty. They make potty training only seemingly easier, and in reality it makes the process more difficult and prolonged.

The Case For Pull-Ups

1. Convenience

It cannot be disputed that pull-ups are convenient. When out shopping or running errands with your child it’s nice to know that you will not have an emergency clothes changing session in the bathroom because of an “accident.” At night time you can sleep peacefully knowing that if your child wets the bed, the bed is not really getting wet (hence no middle of the night sheet changing), just the pull-up. Pull-ups reduce the mess, save time and seem to make day-to-day life less stressful.

2. Connection

Training pants helps children learn the action of pulling down and up when they need to go. They become aware that in order to become a big girl or boy I must pull down these pants and use the potty and pull them back up when I’m finished. They also help kids learn how to dress themselves as they pull-up their training pants to put them. Children learn through repetition and by going through the pull-up and down process they connect it with using the bathroom.

3. Confidence

Pull-up pants make toddlers feel like big kids. Instead of lying down for a changing like a baby, the child has pants that come off and on just like mommy, daddy, big brother or sister. They even come decorated with all sorts of characters and designs just like real underwear. Training pants allow the child to use the bathroom without assistance from the parent or caregiver which makes them feel more independent and confident.

The Case Against Pull-Ups

1. Inconvenience

You are probably wondering why I listed inconvenience as the #1 con since I wrote, “It cannot be disputed that Pull-Ups are convenient.” only two paragraphs ago! The twist comes in that pull-ups are convenient, actually too convenient, which yields no inconvenience for the child. What does this mean, and why would I want my child to be inconvenienced? Well, what happens when a child touches a hot stove? Their hand gets burned and they learn not to touch it again. When a child has an accident in a pull-up they do not feel the inconvenience of being wet or dirty because it has the same absorbent material as a diaper. Since there is no discomfort felt the basic physical motivation for learning how to use the potty is taken away. There is a consequence for every action and using pull-ups does not teach the REAL significance of soiling your pants- discomfort, smelling, embarrassment and inconvenience. The convenience is a benefit primarily for the parent when potty training should be about the child.

2. Confusion

Oftentimes parents use a combination of pull-ups and real underwear when potty-training. They may use underwear at home and pull-ups when they go out, at night or other combinations. This can confuse the child and leave them wondering when will I get wet, and when do I stay dry? They may wonder why it’s not such big deal when they pee pee or poo in the pull-up but there is more chastisement if they go in their underwear. Besides repetition children learn best with consistency. If they consistently feel wet or dirty when they have an accident and you react in the same way each time, they will make the connection faster and it will stick.

3. False-Confidence

Blatantly stated training pants teach kids how to change their own diapers. You can dress it up all you want but it’s just a diaper without the fasteners. Mommy, daddy big sister or brother (assuming they are potty-trained!) do not use pull-ups guys. The time will come when the child soils those undies when they are not in your care (daycare, babysitter, school etc.) and the caregiver may not be so forgiving. They may not feel like a big kid, get teased and in turn lose their confidence. Not to say that you cannot give your child his confidence back but why sugar coat it to begin with? People don’t like cleaning up kids who have accidents (a reason for using pull-ups) and having someone cleaning up after you is a strike against your feeling of independence. Be realistic with your child and let them know that in order to be considered an official big kid they must wear underwear and use the potty all the time. Accidents happen, it’s ok, and you will soon master it!

All in all, the benefits of pull-ups are superficial. Now, it’s not to say that if you use training pants your child will never use the potty because if this were true Pull-Ups would be off the market. This article stresses that pull-ups are a hindrance to potty training and can make the process longer and more confusing. If you are having trouble potty training your toddler try taking away the pull-ups. Yes, it will be more inconvenient on your part, but your child will soon grasp the full relevance of potty training, which in turn makes the process easier and faster.

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How Long Does It Take To Potty Train A Puppy?

Once you get past all of the things you find so adorable about your new little puppy, and they sure are cute, reality sets in.  The reality is that puppies require a lot of love, training and discipline, especially when it comes to potty training.  How long does it take to potty train a puppy?

If you have ever been the proud “parent” of a new puppy, you will surely agree that this can be the most challenging and frustrating elements of owning a puppy.  Just when you think they are getting the hang of it, they undoubtedly have an accident somewhere in the house, maybe a few times a day.

Puppies are babies and continue to grow and develop in that first year of life, much like human babies.  In their growth, their bladders will grow and develop, allowing them the opportunity to “hold it” for longer periods of time, however, in the meantime, you can expect more than a few accidents along the way.  For the first 3-6 months, a puppy cannot fully control his bladder, as it is still in the development stage.

Generally speaking, you can expect your puppy to be fully potty trained within approximately 6-9 months, depending on how much time and effort you put into it.  Consistency is the key.  Another thing you must bring to the table is a lot of love and patience.  Remember that you are dealing with a puppy (baby) who must LEARN all about potty training, and it is your job to teach him.

Some breeds are more stubborn than others in terms of understanding what is expected of them, but with the proper training and most importantly, consistency, you can expect good results no matter what type of dog you are training.  It makes no difference whether your puppy is male or female, large or small, what does matter is the quality of training they receive.

In my case, I am dealing with the most adorable little beagle puppy.  He is very sweet and intelligent, but also very headstrong, sassy and a lot of times, he is just downright naughty.  When it comes to potty training, it amazes me that he can learn to shake paw, sit or sit up in an hour or so, but try to get this guy outside to go potty and he does not seem to get it.  Sometimes it seems like he is just not going potty outside to get back at me for not giving him an extra treat!

I have not had a puppy for many years and it did not take me long to remember just how much work they can be, especially when it comes to potty training.

There are several things to remember if trying to potty train your puppy, and the sooner you begin, the better.

As much as possible, try to get the puppy on a set schedule to include feedings, grooming and daily walks.  Some people choose to walk their dogs in the early morning, while others prefer an evening walk.  Some people choose both morning and evening.  Regardless of your preference, it will not be long until your puppy will be looking forward to getting his exercise and begin to sense (or know) about what time of day it will happen.

Feed your puppy at the same time every day.  It does not matter whether you fill his bowl with food first thing in the morning, or give him one small feeding in the morning and another in the evening. 

Get into the habit of letting your puppy outside to go potty first thing in the morning, last thing at night and approximately 20-30 minutes after each feeding.  You will also want to keep a close watch to make sure he does not get the opportunity to go potty in the house.  Watch for the signs such as sniffing, walking in circles and squatting. 

Make it an exciting event to go outside and go potty by the tone of your voice.  When your puppy successfully goes potty outside, you want to praise him and pet him, letting him know you are very happy with what he accomplished.  Take a few small treats along with you to reward your puppy right after he went potty.  Treats speak volumes and work wonders in the training of your puppy.

Positive reinforcement, patience and above all – consistency – are the keys to potty training your puppy quickly and successfully.

 

Want to get your puppy trained within a week? Go to HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO POTTY TRAIN A PUPPY now for the training tips you can use to put an end to the frustration of accidents.


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